Tuesday, May 13, 2008

School Pride #2: Kisah Seorang Budak Sekolah Harian.

Menurut komen-komen yang aku terima dari entri School Pride #1, kebanyakan pembaca aku dari sekolah asrama. Jadi aku akan berkongsi pengalaman aku sebagai seorang budak sekolah harian. Dan mungkin, mungkin, kamu akan fikir sekolah di asrama tak ada lah teruk sangat.


Aku bersekolah di sebuah sekolah harian di Selangor. Sekolah aku agak popular di Petaling Jaya, terutamanya di kalangan budak Cina. Entri ini mungkin akan menyinggung sesetengah kaum atau pihak, terutamanya yang pernah bersekolah di sekolah aku. Take note, ini cerita sebelum tahun 2002. Aku dah tak ambil tahu apa yang berlaku di sekolah aku.


Budak perempuan di sekolah aku tak suka pakai pinafore. Mereka lebih gemarkan baju kurung yang sendat dan jarang. Pinafore panas, kata mereka. Kemudian mereka akan membuat slit di tepi kain mereka yang biasanya terbelah sehingga ke atas lutut. Butang baju kurung biasanya akan dicabut untuk mendedahkan leher dan sebanyak mana cleavage yang mampu untuk seorang budak 13 tahun. Mereka akan sengaja tak memakai singlet atau camisole supaya budak lelaki akan melihat bra half cup hitam yang mereka pakai di bawah baju kurung jarang mereka. Lengan baju kurung akan dilipat hingga ke siku. Yang perempuan akan memakai platforms yang bertumit 2 inci berjenama Sparx, yang lelaki akan memakai kasut Adidas bewarna putih atau yang ada jalur hitam. Tag nama akan dibleachkan. Rambut juga biasanya dibleachkan atau diwarnakan, tetapi apabila ditanya oleh guru displin akan dijawab, "But this is my natural hair color!" walaupun memang sah bukan. Telinga tak sah kalau kurang dari 2 subang on each ear, lagi afdal kalau ada stud di lidah dan di bahagian-bahagian yang tak dapat didedahkan di compound sekolah.


Mereka gemar membawa beg Eastpak ke sekolah, dan kadang-kadang Jansport. Untuk membawa baju Pendidikan Jasmani, mereka suka gunakan beg kertas Guess dan yang seangkatan dengannya. Bawa saja baju PJ sekadar untuk menunjuk beg kertas berjenama supaya orang tahu mereka membeli belah di sana, tetapi tak mahu main sports, nanti berpeluh-peluh dan busuk. Bila tiba waktu Pendidikan Jasmani, yang lelaki akan pergi bermain bola, yang perempuan akan duduk di tangga sambil mengusya si lelaki lepastu mengkategorikan yang mana leng chai dan yang mana tidak. Lepas bosan, mereka akan bergosip sesama sendiri dan mencipta rumor-rumor yang bakal menjatuhkan maruah dan merosakkan reputasi musuh mereka.
Perempuan di sekolah aku hampir semuanya stock "I LOVE YOU!... di depan kamu dan,


..bitch," selepas kamu beredar. Mereka sanggup memakan kawan mereka sendiri dalam usaha mempopularkan diri mereka.


Sekolah aku tak ramai budak Melayu. Dalam kelas aku yang ada 42 pelajar, ada tiga sahaja budak Melayu. Semua budak Melayu ini pun bukan Melayu tulen, tapi ada kacukan. Trend ini ketara di kelas Sains Tulen lain. Kadang-kadang ada seorang dua budak FELDA yang genius, tetapi biasanya mereka akan meninggalkan sekolah aku untuk ke asrama selepas mendapat keputusan PMR. Di kelas-kelas aliran akaun dan IT pula ada dalam 6-7 budak Melayu dalam satu kelas, biasanya anak kepada ibu bapa golongan bourgeois.
Dalam kelas-kelas berikut akan ada seorang token Indian yang biasanya famous for being outspoken or outrageously funny. Dan dalam kelas arts stream pula trend dia terbalik, di mana akan ada 30 budak Melayu, 3-4 budak India dan 5 budak Cina.


Ada
ramai racists di sekolah aku. Mungkin tak berbeza sangat dengan negara kita, cuma di sekolah aku mereka tak pernah berselindung. Biasanya di kantin aku lihat mereka berpecah belah mengikut kaum, dan di kelas mereka bertegur sapa sekadar as acquantainces, not friends. Di kantin juga sering ada pergaduhan di antara samseng Melayu dan samseng India, juga antara samseng Melayu dan samseng Cina. Mereka membaling dan memecahkan pinggan di atas kepala masing-masing, tapi yang suffer? Penjaga kantin dan pembasuh pinggan yang berbangsa Indonesia.


Sebelum Tingkatan 4 aku hanya bergaul dengan budak Cina di sekolah, dan yang Melayu selepas kelas. Ada juga kumpulan lelaki yang ada Melayu dan India dalam cliquenya di sekolah aku, tetapi cara mereka bergurau agak ekstrim bagi aku, tetapi jika mereka dapat menerima, siapalah aku untuk complain? Contohnya yang Cina akan memanggil yang India 'you black motherf*cker!' dan yang Melayu 'you incestuous bastard' tapi kelihatan kedua-dua Melayu dan India itu dapat ketawa dan menerima jenaka itu. Mungkin mereka tersangat desperate untuk diterima, mungkin mereka mahu berlagak macho dan open minded, mungkin aku yang tak cukup open minded untuk menerima jenaka seperti itu, who knows?


Tapi sepanjang aku berkawan dengan rakan sekelas yang berbangsa Cina, aku jarang merasa barrier di antara kami. Kami bertutur di dalam Bahasa Inggeris. Masa Tingkatan 1 aku mendapati ada sesetengah budak yang racist suka ignore aku dalam perbualan mereka dengan sengaja bercakap Mandarin atau Cantonese (taktik yang tak ada lah berbeza sangat dengan employer yang meletakkan kriterion pandai bercakap Cina tetapi tak mention apa-apa tentang Bahasa Malaysia sebagai kriterion utama dalam iklan kerja dalam suratkhabar). In fact, aku begitu selesa bercakap dengan mereka di kelas sehingga apabila tiba masa untuk aku meminta diri untuk pergi ke kelas Pendidikan Islam atau sembahyang, mereka akan berkata,


"Haha, sometimes I forget you’re Malay lah."


Mungkin ini suatu advantage bagi aku. Mungkin tidak. Sebab mereka selalu sangat terlupa aku bukan Cina, mereka biasanya cakap lepas depan aku. Tetapi insiden yang tak dapat aku lupakan adalah kata-kata seorang budak ini semasa kami sedang berbual tentang rancangan Who Wants to be a Millionaire.


Kami sedang berbual dalam sebuah bulatan semasa Pendidikan Jasmani. Aku sorang saja budak Melayu dalam bulatan itu.


"Wei, did you see or not yesterday’s Who Wants to be a Millionaire? Damn stupid wan lah I tell you, that fella!"

"Ya hor, the 100 ringgit question oso he cannot get right!"

"Eh, you notice or not wan ah, when got Chinese in the show surely the question become so susah wan?"

"Ya lah! When Malay always the question kacang-kacang wan!"


3-4 orang sudah mula memandang aku dan kemudian sesame sendiri. Seperti aku juga, mereka juga sudah mula berasa kurang selesa. Nampaknya seorang budak Cina tu masih tak notice cue untuk stop.


"Because the Malays are so stupid lah!" dia berkata sambil ketawa berdekah-dekah, disambut dengan ketawa nervous oleh pengikut-pengikutnya yang bodoh. Tiga perempat dari kumpulan itu tidak ketawa. Mereka nampak seperti sangat ill at ease dan semuanya memandang aku. Budak Cina yang Membuat Racist Remark Tadi (BCMRRT) tiba-tiba sedar akan keadaan ini dan memandang aku. Muka dia pucat dan kelihatan seolah-olah telah menelan seekor ikan emas. No one said a word. Aku berdiri dan beredar dari situ.


Sekarang, perkara menarik yang berlaku sejurus insiden tersebut. Separuh dari kumpulan itu bangun meninggalkan BCMRRT dan datang memujuk aku, satu persatu. Mereka datang dan memberitahu aku mereka sorry di atas pihak kawan mereka yang sebangsa dengan mereka dan bahawa mereka tak memihak kepada dia. Aku pandang balik pada kumpulan tadi, sudah berpecah. BCMRRT sedang duduk bersama tiga orang kawan yang lain sahaja.


I learnt a very important lesson that day. Mungkin insiden ini cukup untuk membuat kamu menguatkan lagi semangat racist kamu. Mungkin kamu rasa justified untuk membenci mereka selepas mendengar tentang insiden ini. Tapi yang lagi penting bagi aku adalah ini: Yang membuat racist remark itu, seorang. Dalam 2-3 orang ketawa. Yang lainnya semua tak menyokong penyataan dia. Dalam setiap bangsa kamu akan berjumpa orang seperti ini. Mari kita focus terhadap yang positif, yang majoriti instead of yang minoriti dan suka divert perhatian kepada dirinya dengan ayat-ayat perkaumannya.


Aku juga belajar dari sekolah menengah bahawa aku ini berbeza, dan jarang sekali aku akan berasa seperti aku benar-benar fit in.


Inilah kisah tentang sekolah aku yang aku rasakan bagaikan mimpi ngeri juga. Sebenarnya banyak lagi aku mahu ceritakan, tetapi entri ini dah cukup panjang. Tapi kalau ada sesiapa berminat untuk mendengar tentang kisah sekolah harian lagi, mungkin aku akan buat sambungan. Kalau tak, we’ll just leave it at that.

44 comments:

nurulazreenazlan said...

magenta,

Honestly speaking, inilah kali pertama saya mendengar cerita dari budak sekolah harian. For some reason, my sekolah harian friends tak pernah cerita apa-apa pun pasal sekolah mereka, ada pun sikit-sikit je lah macam little anecdotes of cerita kat kelas etc. Tapi takde yang pernah buat a summary so that i could get a picture of the situation.

Your comment on racism tu memang menarik, dan memang betul akan terpulang kepada semua individu untuk membuat kesimpulan sendiri, dan malangnya akan lebih ramai yang akan menggunakannya untuk confirm their own prejudices.

When i was working in PJ, I always hung out with the Chinese in my office. my evenings at the mamak or Sri Pandi were usually spent with the Chinese. I tried to hang out with the Malays, and there were 2 other Malay lady architects I usually had lunch with, but apart from that, I had trouble getting along with the Malay staff. Susah la kalau as soon as duduk je untuk makan mula bukak cerita mengumpat orang kan? Banyak lagi topik lain yang lebih menarik dan berfaedah.

The thing about racism is that it's much easier to fire it up when you make no effort to talk to and befriend the Others. It's much tougher to exclude people based on their skin color and belief if these are the people you hang out with. I should know, my year at that office taught me that.

Even now, when I think about going to that office to visit the people there, in my head I picture going out for teh tarik and nasi daun pisang at Sri Pandi with the Chinese, takde pun terbayang muka-muka staff Melayu. Ada je Cina yang racist, tapi ignore je la orang-orang berfikiran sempit ni, they're just as bad as their Malay counterparts.

Memang terbukti bahawa warna kulit dan agama sahaja tidak menjamin bahawa you will get along well, this lesson continued for me in London. I only have a few select Malay friends sahaja in London, yang lain tu tak tau la kenapa susah betul nak masuk.

I find it easier to talk to people of the same wavelength and have similar interests regardless of agama dan warna kulit. If that person happens to be a Malay, well that's good but I won't bawl my eyes out if I can't get along with people of the same skin color and religion, buang masa je.

Do tell more about your experience as budak sekolah harian, I am very curious!

takahara-suiko said...

teruskan!

bagi saya kak magenta tersangatlah amat sungguh beruntung.

kakak saya dan abang saya pernah cakap dulu, 'Awak tak patut masuk mrsm, tengok, dah tak open minded'.

memang betul pun.

kali terakhir saya berkawan dengan orang cina, masa tadika. orang india, sampai sekarang ada lagi, cuma tak rapat.

sipi-sipi lagi saya nak terjebak dengan pemikiran tipikal orang melayu tipikal. tak ada pengalaman nak berkomunikasi dengan orang bukan melayu.

stereotaip, pemalas, tak fikir luar otak(haha), pemalas, dan seangkatan dengannya.

ikut flow lah katakan. kalau pesong sikit kene pulau.

tapi lama-kelamaan saya ikut kata hati : saya patut ikut arah bertentangan.

kalau orang kata duduk asrama boleh berdikari, iaitu boleh basuh baju sendiri dan tegang cadar sampai syiling boleh melantun, tak payahlah berbuih mulut nak merendahkan budak sekolah harian.

sekian, degan itu berakhirlah hujah saya.

risingcloud said...

same here. masa saye high school dulu kawan dgn budak cina, n they threw me a surprise birthday bash for my 17th, sungguh terharu.

the other malay kids labelled me and my sister "skema", sebab ambik pure science and duduk kelas 1st.

i remember during hockey practice, this one malay junior cakap, "aku taktau la brape subjek budak sains ambik. tula, sape suruh skema sangat!" haih. i felt like slapping her.

chengroundedhere said...

Whoa. I was always under the impression that your school's just filled with classists (can't think of proper word now, sorry :P), not racists. Y'know, yang fasih bertutur dalam BI, yang kaya, yang paras rupanya nampak seperti peragawati. Maybe that only happens in private schools. Tapi token funny Indian guy did always exist throughout my schooling years and even college years. Heh.

A lot of my friends really did wear their school uniforms like how you described lah, regardless of their races. But they were also very active in sports. The ones who avoided the sun and sweating were the 'ayu' ones ler. ;)

I've only been in two schools my whole life, both private, but one of the main differences between the first and second was that in the former, those who speak English mainly got discriminated against, while in the latter, those who speak Mandarin/Cantonese mainly (yep, still majority Chinese) were looked down upon.

I believe these sentiments and prejudices sometimes come from the home. Dah biasa dengar mak bapa luahkan ketidakpuasan terhadap kaum lain, lepas tu dapat verification dari rakan-rakan lain yang juga dipengaruhi oleh orang dewasa, which results in victimisation of peers who're different from what they are. Malay, Chinese, Indian, rich, poor, lawyer, cleaner, straight, gay, you get the idea. ;)

but yeah, please sambung your cerita tentang bangku sekolah! :D

side note: what does skema mean ah? :P

Dayana said...

gimme more!

:)

desperate housewife said...

chengroundedhere. think 'skema' means 'by the book' or 'square'. uncool lah basically.

yes, i too hardly hear the 'sekolah harian' tales. and this angle that you've raised is damn interesting.

zureen said...

yeah, give us more!

rasa mcm nak pancung je BCMRT tu.

tapi, tak main lah emo-emo ni kan. heh.

farizzet said...

i can as long as u wrote about my school years, where there are more malays than others. all i remember was, my chinese friend kutuk indians in tamil and indian friend kutuk in mandarin to chinese guy. and i sitting in the middle, understand nothing but laugh.

47 said...

racism sucks. it really does, but it's here to stay for a long time.

i think it'll be unbelievably better if malaysians were to start thinking of themselves as individuals first than anything else.

and in my opinion, within the malaysian sheep-ish culture, being a little individualistic will do a lot of good.

once a malaysian is able look at and appreciate him/herself as an individual, he/she will be able to appreciate another person for who the other person is instead of what race that person is (notice the usage of 'is' instead of 'belongs to' - i truly think we don't belong to anything, unless we choose to).

from my life experience, i dare say that there are malaysians who carry this kind of mindset, but currently they're the minority. i hope one day, i'll be able to see this minority mindset seeps its way into the majority.

anyhow, great post.

tacgnol said...

haha, aku tergelak bila baca "Untuk membawa baju Pendidikan Jasmani, mereka suka gunakan beg kertas Guess dan yang seangkatan dengannya."

teringat pula waktu aku sekolah dulu, hari ada subjek pj, budak perempuan selalu bawa beg kertas. beg plastik tak main.

budak lelaki selalu bawa beg but adidas, untuk simpan baju sukan.

aku? simpan dalam beg sekolah sudah. tiada beg but mahupun beg kertas.

btw, moar!

Siberkop said...

Sekolah asrama pun ada racism gak. Mcm antara org jawa dgn Banja ker. Melayu dgn proto.

freakmie said...

sekolah aku pun ada perempuan yang jenis 'i love you' di depan ana dan 'fuck you' dibelakang anda..

Anonymous said...

ahh...yes..speaking cantonese or any othr dialects to exclude u.i would know that very well.

magenta said...

nurul: Tu lah. Bukan nak cakap I've never gossiped at all in my life, tapi kadang2 dengan sesetengah orang macam tak ada cerita lain je. Lagi-lagi yang malicious and bergosip just to feed their insecurities. I'd always encourage people to befriend other races just because there are certain things that you just won't experience or learn by just mixing with your own race/group. Tapi some people tend to think this means I encourage them to forget their roots lah, their values lah, their religion lah. Apa kehaenya.

takahara: Ha. Saya selalu tertanya, kenapa kalau 'lain' sikit mesti kena pulau? Diorang mahu semua orang jadi macam biri-biri ke. Seorang buat, semua ikut. Kita orang Melayu. Kita orang kreatif. Kenapa nak sekat sifat kreatif tu?

risingcloud: Hahaha, patut jawab apa tau? "Too many subjects for you to count, because apparently you don't know what comes after 10." :p

chen: Hahaha tunggu dulu, I haven't finished my story. :p They are the things you mentioned.

Eh, I guess the kids at my school were ayu la then? Haha!

Skema tu, I myself pun not sure, I think macam 'nerd' or goody two shoes' ikut slang Melayu, tapi desperate housewife punya definition dekat komen di atas lagi tepat.

dayana: Hehe ok.

desperate housewife: Haha I guess I'll continue the story then.

zureen: Haha! If all racists kena pancung, I doubt we would be left with much. Tapi dalam setiap bangsa ada manusia macamtu kan.

farizzet: Haha learn to curse in both languages.

47: Thanks. I hope bila our generation breeds, kita takkan poison our kids' minds with this sentimen perkauman. It has to stop sometime, seriously.

tacgnol: Hahaha. Aku pernah bawak beg plastik Fajar (kedai macam Giant) untuk bawak baju PJ sekali. Semua orang pandang macam aku ni gila.

siberkop: Iyeke? Hmm, nampaknya manusia ni cari alasan je nak gaduh. Proto tu apa?

freakmie: Hahaha, tah-tah kita dari sekolah yang sama. Bahaya tu.

anonymous: Yeah. Diskriminasi betul kan. Sebab I have friends who were Chinese and tak reti cakap Mandarin/Cantonese jugak. Diorang pun turut blur masa budak-budak ni berbual.

iqanabeera. said...

frankly, i only have a few close friends who aren't malay, plus the usual group of people i hang out with do throw racist remarks around, considering we're all of the same race.

being in an SBP didn't help either. even the teachers spread the so-called "propaganda ketuanan melayu" in class. heh.

i feel lucky that i'm now working at a legal firm, because when i follow my boss around, i do get to see that even in working life, racism happens all the time and there's nothing you can do except turn a blind eye and try to do your job the best possible.

oh and please do continue your stories. haha.

Siberkop said...

Saya gurau ajer tadi tu.

freakmie said...

heheh..maybe..tapi tak kot..

p/s : i link u kat my blog..

Anonymous said...

I believe everyone is racist by default as a human.The only difference is how racist u r and this is influenced by things like upbringing, exposure,social interaction and etc.The fact that u get offended by a racist remark itself shows that u have the racial sentiment.Its a human nature, we all need a side to belong to in the end, especially when u get caught up in a situation like that.Don't get me wrong, i am no racist prick, i have friends from all skin color, black, white brown green blue and i dont hate any race, i just despise those who make overgeneralized comments on certain races like melayu bodoh, malas and chinese smart, intelligent and etc regardless of their race.

nurulazreenazlan said...

well then anonymous,

there are arguments that say we are not born human, we become human.

maybe it's man's natural instinct to take side with people of his own creed, as it is usually taken for granted that having similar background means that communication will be easier. but that doesn't mean that he will automatically be suspicious of others. this suspicion is something that is borne out of the environment he grows up in.

being offended by racist remarks means that a person is aware of the negative connotation it bears, and that doesn't make one racist. when one doesn't feel affected by a racist remark and hence think that it is something acceptable, then that is the mark of a racist.

i am racist too. i have my prejudices. and sometimes things happen that confirm my prejudice, but it is essential that i remember that people are people, and one person differs from the other. it is important to look at a person as an individual.

it's good to know that you are no racist prick =)

erm said...

my mechanic is chinese

i love them...but at certain extent...i feel sorry for them...they treat my family like their own...trust is what connect us...when u are sincere...the bond relate

i will not ever get into politics discussion...they got lots of money..but yet they have no power...they make houses in gov land and when election came...they ask for grant

its a dog eat dog world out there huh?

pakali said...

fuh.. i love u. eh, this post.

Melayu Minimalis said...

i love you. eh, i mean this post too.

Anonymous said...

love u too..hmm I mean this post too haha.. its the season for loving..

Great post anonymous. Too many pseudo anglicised and english educated malays have forgotten the basic. There are no non racist people out there in the world. The so called non racist people are losers tricked into believing that there is such a thing as living in a vacuum.

The world is defined by the strongest and the meek like iqanabare try to be accepted by believing that she is one of them. Easier to mislead yourself that you help define the world by being so called non-racist and hope to be accepted by the english whose world she live in her uninvited mind.

Tak tahu buat kawan mcm Nurul pun nak salahkan Melayu. Tak de kaitan keMelayuan dengan boleh buat kawan atau tidak. Mungkin expectation yang tinggi kalau melayu tu mesti jadi kawan.. itu tak logik.. ada Cina baik tak bermakna mereka tidak ada agenda sendiri. Bangunkan budaya Cina dan bahasa mereka satu hari di Malaysia.. mcm di Singapura. Ada India baik tapi mereka taat kepada Tamil Nadu...

Or erm, who kesian his chinese mechanics. Such noble feelings. Cuba hantar erm hidup di Cina dan tgk mcm mana Cina pula akan kesian dia tak jadi sebahagian dari politburo komunis.

Baru tahu langit tinggi rendah.

Its harder to fight for the malays. To promote ketuanan melayu kerana ia satu perjuangan yang sukar. Memerlukan pengorbanan dan keberanian. Memerlukan pertumpahan darah. Lebih senang hidup dalam make believe world of non-racist bukan? Lebih senang hidup dalam dunia neo colonialism bukan?

From one anonymous to another...cheers!

erm said...

hahahaha

well,aku kesian sebab they respect malay

and they blend in and spoke malay language like u and me

they deserve my respect

thanks but no thanks for the enlightment..hehe

magenta said...

iqanabeera: Yeah, when you're working baru you get to see the big picture.

And yupe, will do. Hehe.

siberkop: Yeke? Argh. Aku lambat pikap lawak asrama.

freakmie: Hahaha tak kot. Thanks.

anonymous: Well, I believe we were born a blank canvas. And just like Nurul said, it's the things in our environment that mould us to become who we are. I sort of agree with your remark that everyone being a racist, it must be true to a certain extent. Just like how I believe everyone judges everyone else, the only difference is to what extent do we judge?

nurul: Nicely put!

erm: I like the way you answered to the anonymous who bashed you.

pakali and MM: Hahaha thanks. :)

anonymous: There is a way to convey information to people, and you are not doing it right. Being bitter, overcritical and calling people names is definitely not the way to do it.

I believe Iqanabeera did not mention anything about being accepted by the English. She was merely stating her experiences abt working in a firm in Malaysia. And I believe what she said are relevant to this post.

In fact, I believe Nurul's and erm's comments are totally relevant to the post while your comment isn't. Here you are rambling abt Singapore and China while the issue here is Malaysia. Because we are in Malaysia. And I do believe it is people like you who will add sparks to the fire that is already there.

Why are we talking abt pengorbanan and pertumpahan darah? Listen to yourself. This is not 1969.

Kamu mahukan peperangan over a bloody race? I'm sorry, but nasionalism must the stupidest excuse for a war that I can think of. There are bigger things in life.

gray said...

about dat bcmrrt, hearing racist remark isnt as hard as rising above..
i have this one teacher(bkn sekolah pnya) that suka kutuk melayu n hav the usual stereotype view like the bcmrrt..but she was "quite nice" to say to me "no offence la" or "sorry to say lah" before she continue to kutuk melayu.. i really dont know how to react when she did dat..

Jumpjumpjump said...

Erk..Mcm SMK SAS jer..

Anonymous said...

Mana ada saya bashed erm. Cuma enlightened him saja... or whoever else..

Harap boleh diambil hanya sebagai food for thought. Saya hanya menjaga kepentingan saya sahaja sebagai melayu..

deathidoo said...

hye.
heh.cool gile.
spent most of my time today just to read ur blog-fascinating! (:

raised up some questions in my mind,and others too,no doubt about it.u made people to think the rational of you talking about sth evendo for certain,they found it offensive.

racist-undeniable existence..

put it in this way.

in my clg,malays hangout dgn malays.rare to c them hangout with chns peeps,or even d indian :(

chns ppl pulak,they usually lepak with the chns(obviously) and plus,the indians as well.

konklusi.

chns + indian = sama2 kawan

malays on the other side pulak macam dah mark ,this is a malay territory.

i'm not saying that malays dont mingle around with others but they tend to be friend with mreke yg sebangsa.it's their comfortable zone.

and what's more to add up is that,chns and indians overhere,they're all superb.u can see clearly the way they think,the way they take sth,the way the finish up any assgmnts,any tasks..

most of them work in a very very professional way and even in classes jugak the malays always feel inferior with them.and why is that so?because they normally managed to score highest marks,they're the one who performed,they're the one who berani to bercakap in class.malays banyak diam je coz they think their english are bad and it's better for them to be quite and pretend to understand what the heck the teachers r teaching in front.they prefer to communicate in malays and keep in silent mode when it comes to english conversation.
how to improve if they're still like this till the end maa?

sometimes i love to hangout with the chns n indians dudes coz they're so cool.if u'r in troubles,they'll help u.mintak tolong sikit mesti mereka tolonglah.tp if we look at the malays side,kadang2 to help ur own bestfriend kite hesitate.this is what i can c based on my own personal observation.

melayu kene berubah.we need to step out from our comfortable zone and try to mix around.when we do this,kita akan dapat see things in different angle which will help us in our life.sebab oranag kate,if kite kwn ngan malay jek,we'll be only exposed to the way how malays think,but when we'v become friends with the others,bukankah lebih membantu?

and kite pon takkan rugi apape.Diorag xmkn kite pon.and the are willing to share anything with u as long as we consider them as our friends too.

malaysian kena bersatu padu :)

magenta said...

gray: I know how to deal with people like that - give them a taste of their own medicine. If you can't tell them that it bugs you, do the same thing back to them. Macam, say "No offence la.." then kutuk her race, and when you're done smile sweetly at her dengan muka innocent. Kalau dia melenting, remind her that she does the same thing all the time.

jumpjumpjump: SAS bukan sekolah lelaki ke?

anonymous: Yeah, yeah.

deathidoo: Hi there.:)

Thanks for dropping a comment. Yeah, I agree that we need to mix around to get a bigger prespective, get out of our comfort zones and see the bigger picture. For one, we all could start by being less suspicious of one another.

And yes, racism exists. What do we do? Ignore it, pretend like it doesn't exist and continue living under suspicion of other races? Or do we bring it out to the open and discuss it even though some people might find it offensive? This is a big issue, regardless of whether people want to acknowledge it or not. And I chose the latter.

catalyst said...

the school u mentioned...does it happen to be in the area of d'sara jaya and d'sara utama? coz it sounds like a school i went to!

magenta said...

Small world. Haha.

youknowho said...

"..everyone is racist by default as a human.."

"..there are no non racist people out there in the world."

WHAT A BULLSHIT CONCEPT.

You can thank whatever feelings or acts of racism but the poor way you were brought up. Blame your parents for teaching you discrimination. Blame them for having inferiority complex and imposing their supicions against you.

By the way, in this day and age, nobody owns anybody else. Ketuanan melayu my foot. I see Melayu licking Chinese ass all the time, dressing like them, trying to mix with them, trying to whiten their face to look like them, trying to marry into the race so the kids will look more Chinese and fair, ketuanan melayu you say? Hah. Sudahla puji komen sendiri. Tak sedar diri!

Oh, and wipe that brown smudge off your nose.

jipo said...

Mewarna rambut is a big No,No in my school..for boys. Girls? haha susah nak detect sbb semua mesti kena pakai tudung. aku igt masa Form 1 ada 2-3 bdk pompuan yg xpakai tudung,so diorg byk kali kena panggil jumpa ustazah..bukan kena marah tapi nasihat..so lepas byk kali diorg pon pakai..tapi lepas sekolah xpakai jugak..hmm.
yg sengaja buat baju kurung,tudung kain nipis pon ada..cukur bulu kening dan lukis balik (haha betul ke term ni)..ada yg kahwin masa form 3 sbb xleh teruskan dan dah ada org meminang..so kena berhenti sekolah..

jipo said...

i'm just so happy with this news that i have to share it with u all..

Hong Ming and Ummi won the HIGHEST award ever bestowed upon a Malaysian tv commercial, at the TOUGHEST advertising award show in the world(Pencil Award) http://yasminthestoryteller.blogspot.com/2008/05/hong-ming-in-love-wins-nomination.html

catalyst said...

haha..small world indeed. keep writing dude!

magenta said...

youknowho: Hahaha. Truth is bitter, isn't it. The teens who read my blog boleh culture shock reading yr un-sugarcoated comment. And yeah, that konsep ketuanan melayu dah outdated la. Mana boleh pakai lagi.

jipo: Haha so cute. (Pasal so happy kena kongsi news tu)

Haha cukur kening dan lukis balik; orang panggil tattoo kening kot. Kahwin masa form 3? Wow. Dye rambut tu perkara biasa kat sekolah aku, so is mewarna kuku. Hehehe.

catalyst: Ok dude.

tumpanglalu said...

depa sebut mcm tu. ya ka?

magenta said...

tumpanglalu, sebut apa?

tumpanglalu said...

yg cina dgn selambanya beserta niat berkata kesat kpd melayu dan india tetapi yg melayu dan india ni dgn selambanya pula bole digest sambil menguntum senyuman. apa ini?! apa jnis pengisian minda ni?!
kalu jd kes spt anda di mana yg cina berkata kesat kpd melayu dlm keadaan dia xsedar kehadiran anda di situ, itu bole lg diterima pakai sbb mmg dah lumrah dunia sesapa pun termasuk melayu akan berkata-'kata' terhadap bangsa lain cth mudah spt situasi 'ckp2 belakang'. tp kalu dah 'ckp2' tersebut diolah sedemikian rupa secara berdepan dgn sengaja, wahhhhh 'hebat' btul gerangan bangsa (ketika) tuu ya..

magenta said...

Tahukah anda, apabila kita menjadi golongan minoriti dan kurang berpendirian teguh, kita akan takut untuk melawan balik dan terima saja segala kritikan sebagai jenaka walaupun rasa terluka? Ini yang aku nampak. Dalam keinginan untuk diterima golongan majoriti di saat itu, golongan majoriti tersebut telah berbuat demikian.

Aku juga percaya kalau kita sudah betul2 rapat, lawak interracial boleh menjadi benar2 kelakar dan tak menyinggung sesiapa, tapi I don't believe this is the case here.

tumpanglalu said...

ya aku tahu apa rasanya menjadi golongan minoriti. aku juga penah alaminya. aku penah berada dalam kelas yg mana jumlah pelajarnya seramai 45 org yg mana 3 org sahaja termasuk aku adalah melayu. slebihnya japanese. ya aku tahu cmna rasanya. sudah pastinya aku pd ketika itu akan cuba utk adapt dgn situasi n keadaan dan japanese td juga pastinya akn cuba ambil kesempatan namun.. semuanya ada limit. kena tahu dan kena cuba kawal selia situasi n keadaan tersebut. jgn ada yg cuba nak pijak kepala..

ya aku juga tahu bilamana kita dah btul2 rapat, lawak interracial tidak akan menjadi hal tp.. apa maksud benar2 rapat kt cni?! berkawan baik? rakan karib? sahabat sejati? aku tak nmpk apa yg terjadi ketika tu boleh dikelaskan sbg perhubungan yg benar2 rapat! bukan?

jgn slh phm ya, aku cuma mmberi pndpt..

chenaD said...

besh2...crita yg mnarik..i always tot gurl who study at a school which minority always malay one usually~bcome~bitchy bt still pandai..social disana sini..bt u??different..btw..crita lah agi bout kisah2 tym skola harian...mnarik..

magenta said...

Tumpanglalu: Aku tak tau, aku tak terlibat dalam melawak macamtu :p

Macam aku tulis kat atas, mungkin keinginan mereka untuk fit in terlalu kuat sehingga mereka tak kisah kepala mereka dipijak.

chenaD: Tak, saya tak bitchy. Haha. Cerita pasal sekolah harian ni dah lama tamat, hehe.